Won’t the surrogate want to keep the baby? 

28 Aug Won’t the surrogate want to keep the baby? 

Surrogacy is a beautiful and complex journey, one that involves both an emotional and physical commitment. For intended parents, the process brings hope and excitement as they eagerly await the arrival of their baby. For surrogates, the experience is often marked by an incredible act of generosity and selflessness. With so many emotions (on both ends) of the surrogacy process, it would be acceptable for intended parents to worry that the surrogate would want to keep the baby. It’s our job to ensure intended parents that this outcome is not likely, and if the process is done correctly (and legally) this outcome is impossible. Let’s dive into why this outcome will not happen.

A Surrogate’s Role

Our surrogates are women who genuinely want to help families. Many surrogates feel empowered by their role in helping others. They are motivated by the joy of giving a family the gift of a child. 

As an agency, it is our job to thoroughly explain the surrogate’s role and ensure our surrogates are physically, emotionally, and financially stable to fulfill that role. The role is solidified with a detailed contract that includes specifics on parental rights and responsibilities of the baby.

Screenings

Before a surrogate can begin the process they must be screened by a social worker and a psychologist. A psychologist will perform an in-depth screening process where they will evaluate both the surrogate, their spouse (if they have one), and the intended parents. The screening includes questions about their expectations, and emotional boundaries for the process. The psychologist will also offer support to the surrogate during the entire process. This support helps surrogates manage their feelings and understand their role.

Legal

One of the most important steps in the surrogacy process is Contracts. Surrogacy contracts are comprehensive and legally binding. They outline the expectations and responsibilities of all parties involved. These agreements are designed to protect everyone’s rights and to prevent any misunderstandings. Surrogates commit to the process with the knowledge that their role ends once the baby is born, and the intended parents take over.

Surrogates undergo a rigorous process of preparation, emotional management, and legal agreements to ensure that their role is fulfilled with care and commitment. By recognizing the depth of their contribution and the reasons behind their decisions, we can appreciate the profound impact surrogates have in making dreams of parenthood come true for others. 

In the end, surrogacy is a testament to the strength of human compassion and the desire to help others achieve their dreams. It’s a journey filled with challenges and rewards, and respecting the choices and experiences of surrogates is essential in honoring their remarkable contribution.